I’m not keeping my surname. That is in some female circles a surprising statement apparently, or so I have discovered in the past year. And more recently I have heard from a chap: “My girlfriend’s a bit of a feminist, so she’d want to keep her name.” To clarify: I am still a feminist – I believe in gender equality and choosing to change my name hasn’t changed that. Learn some sense people.
Not to rant but…
Feminist: Someone who supports feminism.
Feminism: the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.
You can totes be pro equality of the sexes and choose to be a Mrs. It is freaking 2015.
Now where was I? The time has come: we’re back from honeymoon, and have no immediate travel plans. But I am now posed with a new set of troubles: what needs changing and how on earth do I go about it!? (and what is it going to cost me…)
Here’s my list and I hope to get back to you with answers shortly and chat about how amazingly easy it all was…
Doctors and Dentist
Tax office – bet that one is fun!
All insurance – house, life, car, personal
It’s definitely safe to say: changing it on social media is the fun easy one and the items above are probably going to make my head ache.
It’s been just over a week since J and I got married and it’s totally true, everyone says it: it goes so quickly!
The day was beautiful and I was much calmer than it seemed people expected me to be when we were getting ready to go to the church. Only when we climbed into the car did the nerves kick in, but only nerves at being in front of sooooo many people. 150 is a lot.
Here are some of my favourite snaps of the day, some stolen from friends. Thanks friends : )
As I said it did go fast, and I am a bit sad that I didn’t get to spend as much time with some people as I would have liked, but when you have a big wedding that’s a compromise that will inevitably be made.
Also maybe I’m an alien, but though it was great, all of it, the best bit was saying our vows and taking it all in as everyone was on the dance floor at the end of the night. I won’t be describing it as the best day ever, but that I hope it to be one of many, as we are at the beginning (though also 6.5 years in) of our life together.
Must be off now, packing for the next leg of our honeymoon needs to be started.
If you didn’t know: We’re getting married this summer.
J and I will have been together six and a half years by the time I become his Mrs and he my Mr, but there are a lot of things I hadn’t thought about when it came to planning our wedding. (In spite of knowing about 5 and a half years ago that he was definitely the guy I wanted to annoy forever!)
Do we want confetti?
What do we want to hang as decorations in the marquee?
What is an appropriate gift for your parents to say thank you for “Everything”?
What Hymns do we want to sing?
Where do we need to get our banns read for our church wedding to be legal?
Do we need a license to have an event at my parents home?
What colour knickers should a bride wear?
Should I test waterproof makeup out in advance for effectiveness?
Engagement has been a wonderful, excessively happy time. But I have found myself at times overwhelmed with questions and the number of possible answers.
If I were giving advice to newly engaged couple it would be:
Don’t overcomplicate things.
Remind yourselves it just one day, and it’ll be lovely whatever you do: you’re marrying the person you love.
The path of least resistance might be worth taking. This one I have struggled with, and there have definitely been avoidable arguements as a result. Will it really matter if we ended up with bunting, or not having Pimms on the day…
Just remember to enjoy your engagement with each other!