Open letter: To the guy with road rage this evening

 

or your attitude.

Dear Sir (let’s be more polite than you were),

I hope your evening and mood improves. I can’t say that I have ever experienced an incident quite like the one you just provided me with, but then, you live and you gain new experiences.

I imagine you are not happy with how we parted, however I am happy with the choices I made. Some things you don’t know about me, because we are complete strangers to one another:

  • I have had a clean driving license for 12 years (I am not sure why you felt the need to shout that question through my car window; it was pretty condescending. I reckon we are the same age.)
  • I have only ever made an insurance claim for a chipped windscreen, from a stone
  • I am a fairly careful driver, partly now because (now you couldn’t maybe see this from your viewpoint outside my car door) I am eight months pregnant
  • I don’t love backing down, what I am pretty sure I am in the right
  • Angry as you were, I’ve dealt with worse (lucky me)
  • I am confident it was my right of way because I gave way going in your same direction only this morning, on my way to work, and I’ve driven that road and that area a lot.

I can’t know what drives a person, who is in fact in the wrong, to not only aggressively honk their horn and shout, but then actually get out of their vehicle and come up to someone else’s to shout at them further. I have never done it myself.

I am grateful to the man that approached you, I think he may have been a pedestrian. I don’t know what he said to you, I could assume it was either ‘ mate, that’s not your side of the road’ or something like ‘she’s obviously not moving, why not back your van up a bit?’. Whatever it was it worked and you went away.

Other things you might be interested to know: as soon as I saw you getting out of your driver door, I locked my car and me and my colleagues safely inside it. You might not realise how over the top you appeared, but honestly it wasn’t a nice side to see of a stranger. The idea that you thought I would wind down my window to hear your shouts more clearly suggests you are good at reading people.

I would ask that you don’t do that again to anyone else, ever. It was pretty shitty of you really.

As I said I hope you have a better evening, and cheer up. And maybe learn a bit more about right’s of way and the road layouts of Brighton.

Many thanks,

Laura

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