Changing names – what’s the deal?

Screen Shot 2015-08-05 at 9.06.17 pmI’m not keeping my surname. That is in some female circles a surprising statement apparently, or so I have discovered in the past year. And more recently I have heard from a chap: “My girlfriend’s a bit of a feminist, so she’d want to keep her name.” To clarify: I am still a feminist – I believe in gender equality and choosing to change my name hasn’t changed that. Learn some sense people.

Not to rant but…

Feminist: Someone who supports feminism.

Feminism:┬áthe advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.

You can totes be pro equality of the sexes and choose to be a Mrs. It is freaking 2015.

Now where was I? The time has come: we’re back from honeymoon, and have no immediate travel plans. But I am now posed with a new set of troubles: what needs changing and how on earth do I go about it!? (and what is it going to cost me…)

Here’s my list and I hope to get back to you with answers shortly and chat about how amazingly easy it all was…

  • Driving License
  • Passport
  • Bank accounts
  • Mortgage
  • Doctors and Dentist
  • Tax office – bet that one is fun!
  • Blood donation
  • All insurance – house, life, car, personal
  • Phone contracts
  • Email addresses.

It’s definitely safe to say: changing it on social media is the fun easy one and the items above are probably going to make my head ache.

We’re married.

It’s been just over a week since J and I got married and it’s totally true, everyone says it: it goes so quickly!

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The day was beautiful and I was much calmer than it seemed people expected me to be when we were getting ready to go to the church. Only when we climbed into the car did the nerves kick in, but only nerves at being in front of sooooo many people. 150 is a lot.

Here are some of my favourite snaps of the day, some stolen from friends. Thanks friends : )

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Pins are tricky
walking up to the church
The Groom and his many men
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My lovely lovely maids
Getting into the the car

So chuffed with my bouquet – I made it myself.
Heading in
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Making things above board and legal
Making a run for it – thanks Mrs Fossey for this lovely pic!
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Now then – my sister doesn’t “do” hugs and I loved this – I had to agree in advance that I could get a hug on our wedding day.
Wave everyone!
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Speeches time – show us your glasses
I loved J’s speech and I cried and I’ve cried since watching his and the others since.
This is pretty deceptive – looks like we can dance. If you were there, you know: we can’t.
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17st man above them but loving it

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As I said it did go fast, and I am a bit sad that I didn’t get to spend as much time with some people as I would have liked, but when you have a big wedding that’s a compromise that will inevitably be made.

Also maybe I’m an alien, but though it was great, all of it, the best bit was saying our vows and taking it all in as everyone was on the dance floor at the end of the night. I won’t be describing it as the best day ever, but that I hope it to be one of many, as we are at the beginning (though also 6.5 years in) of our life together.

Must be off now, packing for the next leg of our honeymoon needs to be started.