Changing names – what’s the deal?

Screen Shot 2015-08-05 at 9.06.17 pmI’m not keeping my surname. That is in some female circles a surprising statement apparently, or so I have discovered in the past year. And more recently I have heard from a chap: “My girlfriend’s a bit of a feminist, so she’d want to keep her name.” To clarify: I am still a feminist – I believe in gender equality and choosing to change my name hasn’t changed that. Learn some sense people.

Not to rant but…

Feminist: Someone who supports feminism.

Feminism: the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.

You can totes be pro equality of the sexes and choose to be a Mrs. It is freaking 2015.

Now where was I? The time has come: we’re back from honeymoon, and have no immediate travel plans. But I am now posed with a new set of troubles: what needs changing and how on earth do I go about it!? (and what is it going to cost me…)

Here’s my list and I hope to get back to you with answers shortly and chat about how amazingly easy it all was…

  • Driving License
  • Passport
  • Bank accounts
  • Mortgage
  • Doctors and Dentist
  • Tax office – bet that one is fun!
  • Blood donation
  • All insurance – house, life, car, personal
  • Phone contracts
  • Email addresses.

It’s definitely safe to say: changing it on social media is the fun easy one and the items above are probably going to make my head ache.

We’re married.

It’s been just over a week since J and I got married and it’s totally true, everyone says it: it goes so quickly!

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The day was beautiful and I was much calmer than it seemed people expected me to be when we were getting ready to go to the church. Only when we climbed into the car did the nerves kick in, but only nerves at being in front of sooooo many people. 150 is a lot.

Here are some of my favourite snaps of the day, some stolen from friends. Thanks friends : )

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Pins are tricky
walking up to the church
The Groom and his many men
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My lovely lovely maids
Getting into the the car

So chuffed with my bouquet – I made it myself.
Heading in
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Making things above board and legal
Making a run for it – thanks Mrs Fossey for this lovely pic!
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Now then – my sister doesn’t “do” hugs and I loved this – I had to agree in advance that I could get a hug on our wedding day.
Wave everyone!
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Speeches time – show us your glasses
I loved J’s speech and I cried and I’ve cried since watching his and the others since.
This is pretty deceptive – looks like we can dance. If you were there, you know: we can’t.
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17st man above them but loving it

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As I said it did go fast, and I am a bit sad that I didn’t get to spend as much time with some people as I would have liked, but when you have a big wedding that’s a compromise that will inevitably be made.

Also maybe I’m an alien, but though it was great, all of it, the best bit was saying our vows and taking it all in as everyone was on the dance floor at the end of the night. I won’t be describing it as the best day ever, but that I hope it to be one of many, as we are at the beginning (though also 6.5 years in) of our life together.

Must be off now, packing for the next leg of our honeymoon needs to be started.

Getting Hitched

If you didn’t know: We’re getting married this summer.

J and I will have been together six and a half years by the time I become his Mrs and he my Mr, but there are a lot of things I hadn’t thought about when it came to planning our wedding. (In spite of knowing about 5 and a half years ago that he was definitely the guy I wanted to annoy forever!)

  • Do we want confetti?Confetti
  • What do we want to hang as decorations in the marquee?marquee-decs
  • What is an appropriate gift for your parents to say thank you for “Everything”?
  • What Hymns do we want to sing?
  • Where do we need to get our banns read for our church wedding to be legal?
  • Do we need a license to have an event at my parents home?
  • What colour knickers should a bride wear?
  • Should I test waterproof makeup out in advance for effectiveness?

Engagement has been a wonderful, excessively happy time. But I have found myself at times overwhelmed with questions and the number of possible answers.

If I were giving advice to newly engaged couple it would be:
  • Don’t overcomplicate things.
  • Remind yourselves it just one day, and it’ll be lovely whatever you do: you’re marrying the person you love.
  • The path of least resistance might be worth taking. This one I have struggled with, and there have definitely been avoidable arguements as a result. Will it really matter if we ended up with bunting, or not having Pimms on the day…

Just remember to enjoy your engagement with each other!


Losing weight: What’s worked for me


So it’s no secret that I was heavier a few years ago, I hit eating hard at Uni and carried on long after graduation. These things happen.

But I wasn’t happy, I was two going on three dress sizes bigger than I had ever been, I felt big, my skin was suffering from over indulgence. Basically things needed to change.

What I did that worked for me:

1. Tried a class

I joined a gym class with a friend, just once a week for a few months. Zumba was awesome, I loved the sense of achievement after a class.

2. The Gym

I joined a gym with friends, and tried all the free classes going.

Not all of these were awesome: Yoga is not for me, I can’t keep a straight face. People don’t always appreciate an inappropriate giggle. I know that now.

3. MyFitnessPal

This thing is a godsend. The truth now: I lie to myself about how much and what I eat. A fact: when I use this religiously my weight loss stays on track and when I don’t it doesn’t. There are graphs, actually proof.

4. Eating

This is a hard one. I love chocolate. In all forms. But once I started using the Myfitnesspal App I could see how far over my regular calorie allowance I was going each day, nevermind if I wanted to loose weight. So I said goodbye to multiple biscuits, and daily chocolate fixes. I started having healthier choices for breakfast and lighter lunches.

I’ve found ultimately it’s all about choices and making good ones for a healthier future. But it is hard.

I do LOVE chocolate. 


Wedding Wishes

So, since getting engaged in July, I have fallen headfirst into the rabbit hole that is weddings on Pinterest, so I wanted to share some of my favourite Pins.

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Wedding Dress
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bridal makeup
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You can check out my full summer wedding board here:

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