“Good Afternoon” from a stranger

Today on my break I went for a walk around some residential streets near I work, as you do when it mild and not raining. I walked past two builders who were working on one of the houses.

As I passed they both stopped and one loudly said “Good Afternoon” in my direction. I don’t tend to talk to strangers in the street, everything about being safe as as woman has told me not to react.

As I carried on walking, neither smiling nor speaking he bellowed after me “She must be deaf or something! Rude cow!”

Charming eh?!

I and friends of mine have talked about the fact that we have been dealing with unwelcome comments in the street since we were barely teenagers. What do these men expect the outcome to be? Should I holla “Good Afternoon” back, be chuffed that he said that rather than the regular torrent of “Give us a smile” “Cheer up love” and the list goes on.

I wish I could quiz them on why, or educate them on how intimidating it can be. I’ll not feel guilty about posting about it. We should be able to walk on our lunch breaks, on our way to and from work, and heck even home after a night out without having someone force themselves into our day.

I hope you are all having a good Tuesday!

3 thoughts on ““Good Afternoon” from a stranger

  1. some girl March 19, 2017 / 9:19 pm

    yes they were rude certainly but but but…. look this is sexist. Just because they are men and builders doesn’t mean you have the right to take it into the whole “women being intimidated” playfield. Guess what. Woman can be rude too. Women harass people too. So let’s drop the sexist bit and start being humane.
    Yes, they had no right to be rude, I absolutely agree. Absolutely. But women can harass men just as well. Or women women. Wake up to that please.

    Sorry you had to put up with rudeness, and I am not being [rude] here just trying to be fair to everyone. Have a nice day and hope you don’t take this the wrong way.

    – a girl (by the way)

    P.S. I had a black woman be RUDE AS HELL to me on the tube in London just because it was packed and i was in her face. She was the rudest and the most unpleasant person I can remember meeting in London in a long time. So lets put everything into perspective.

    • lauratells March 20, 2017 / 4:51 pm

      Thank you for your comment. I certainly appreciate where you are coming from.

      But I’m not labelling all men, I am specifically referring two the two men that commented on that particular day and other men that have in the past, not because they are ‘men and builders, but because of the actions that those particular people chose, so am going to find the idea of being labelled sexist a little hard to swallow. But you are as entitled to your opinion as I am, so let’s agree to disagree.

      I have never experienced woman on woman harassment of any sort, and this post is representative of my personal experiences and those of the women I have spoken with.

      I am in agreement with you people of all genders can be rude and we should all be kinder and more respectful of one another.

      • some girl March 21, 2017 / 4:09 pm

        Definitely agree that we all should be more respectful. Starting with me, I barged in here with a heavy handed opinion. Nonetheless thank you for replying.

        I guess my point was. Women can be rude too. In my personal experience as a woman. That should count for something… (one vote into your collective woman-survey would be fair,perhaps)

        To lighten up the mood, here is a story from life. Once I was walking my dog in a real hermit-like mood (a bit like you described, you know minding my own business, not wanting to talk to anyone or make eye contact). My neighbour was standing around chatting with another neighbour so I slipped past both hoping they will leave me the heck alone. Just as I passed them heard one neighbour say something along the lines of “oo you grumpy cow” (though I can’t honestly remember anymore). Well. I had to turn around and say hi, much to my annoyance.

        But you know that guy being an old grumpy whingy (but sweet) whingebag is actually a very sweet guy. He even slipped me a “happy birthday” card, just because he heard it was my birthday (and that involved a bit of exercise). He always makes an effort for me, whenever asked.

        I guess my point was, well it was a crap day for him too that day so he was a bit rude. I don’t mind, he didn’t really mean it. Your guys might be just the same (or not? but hopefully yes)

        Anyway, have a good day.

        P.S. I like your blog

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