She’s here!

We had a little girl 9 weeks ago, Edie Rose. I can’t quite get my head around the fact she has been here for that long, time is going so quickly.

When time allows (nap time!) I’ll be writing about what I’ve found useful in these early weeks.

 

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Breech baby

So, our baby is the wrong way up. Depending on how you look at things, I mean once it’s born it is currently the right way up for day-to-day human life, but for actual birth, it’s not ideal.

So in spite of hanging around upside down, to try and flip it naturally, we are booked in for an ECV later this week. I am nervous and trying to prep myself for it not working. For first time mothers I have been told it’s 40% chance of being successful. Meaning 60% likelihood of needing a planned c-section.

Wondering what an ECV is? Basically a doctor manually tries to flip the baby in a sort of in-utero forward roll. I have to be on the labour ward, just in case the babe goes into distress and needs an emergency c-section, or the procedure brings on natural labour. It’s certainly been quite a lot to get my head around.

Bit more info about breech babies can be found here: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/breech-birth/

Wish us luck!

Open letter: To the guy with road rage this evening

 

or your attitude.

Dear Sir (let’s be more polite than you were),

I hope your evening and mood improves. I can’t say that I have ever experienced an incident quite like the one you just provided me with, but then, you live and you gain new experiences.

I imagine you are not happy with how we parted, however I am happy with the choices I made. Some things you don’t know about me, because we are complete strangers to one another:

  • I have had a clean driving license for 12 years (I am not sure why you felt the need to shout that question through my car window; it was pretty condescending. I reckon we are the same age.)
  • I have only ever made an insurance claim for a chipped windscreen, from a stone
  • I am a fairly careful driver, partly now because (now you couldn’t maybe see this from your viewpoint outside my car door) I am eight months pregnant
  • I don’t love backing down, what I am pretty sure I am in the right
  • Angry as you were, I’ve dealt with worse (lucky me)
  • I am confident it was my right of way because I gave way going in your same direction only this morning, on my way to work, and I’ve driven that road and that area a lot.

I can’t know what drives a person, who is in fact in the wrong, to not only aggressively honk their horn and shout, but then actually get out of their vehicle and come up to someone else’s to shout at them further. I have never done it myself.

I am grateful to the man that approached you, I think he may have been a pedestrian. I don’t know what he said to you, I could assume it was either ‘ mate, that’s not your side of the road’ or something like ‘she’s obviously not moving, why not back your van up a bit?’. Whatever it was it worked and you went away.

Other things you might be interested to know: as soon as I saw you getting out of your driver door, I locked my car and me and my colleagues safely inside it. You might not realise how over the top you appeared, but honestly it wasn’t a nice side to see of a stranger. The idea that you thought I would wind down my window to hear your shouts more clearly suggests you are good at reading people.

I would ask that you don’t do that again to anyone else, ever. It was pretty shitty of you really.

As I said I hope you have a better evening, and cheer up. And maybe learn a bit more about right’s of way and the road layouts of Brighton.

Many thanks,

Laura

New Year’s Resolutions (where has the time gone?!)

Can’t quite get my head around it being a new year tomorrow, but I have been deep in moving house/ being preggo land.

So… keeping it simple in 2018:

  • Try not to sweat the small stuff. I think it’s going to be a pretty hectic, life changing year, so one of my resolutions is to try not to get too bogged down in small things. In the grand scheme of things it won’t matter if we’re not totally on top of keeping our home tidy, or my nail varnish is chipped.
  • Healthy without pressure. In all senses. We’re expecting at the end of February and we have moved house, so the chances of me signing up to a gym membership tomorrow are slim, but I miss being active (pelvis pain currently hindering even the shortest of walks) so I am looking forward to short walks out with our new little one. And I’ve heard being new parent is knackering, so trying to fuel myself in a vaguely sensible way will probably help (plus cake in moderation of course!).

Are you making resolutions for the new year? If so, do share!

Joys of Pregnancy: First Trimester

So, yes we are excited about the new growing addition to our family, and looking forward to the due date. I have however been slightly less than excited about the pregnancy symptoms I experienced in the first trimester.

I’ll be honest, I knew it wasn’t going to be all sunshine and smiles, but I wasn’t fully aware of what was in-store for me. And I’m a lucky one: very little actual vomiting took place early on (that came later), only a few days where I have been overwhelmed by it.

Hormonal Messiness

O, what a patient husband I have. I hope it wasn’t too often, and hopefully won’t happen going forward but there have definitely been moments where I have gone from 0 to 100 for no real reason.

Peeing

This has sort of  eased off as I entered my second trimester, thankfully. There have been a few car journeys that have been *even* longer than usual because I just need to go. And the night times. It’s got to be good pre-baby training for sleep deprivation and interruption.

Extreme Tiredness

Wow. This one. I was so incredibly tired weeks 5 to 9, it was like I’d taken sleep medication or something. Getting home and falling asleep on the sofa at 7:30, napping all weekend and most of the way through our two holidays. Sorry husband.

Hella Nauseous

With a small amount of vomiting. But like your are hungover and not sure if food with fix you or ruin you. I basically spent the last 3 months avoiding the food I love and any particularly interesting vegetables (not great for a vegetarian). And snacking on mini cheddars to the point where I now never want a cheddar again in my life.

Hungry but not

I am hungry, sometime ravenously. But I get about a third of a way through my meal and start giving up. I just can’t finish. That is not normal Laura behavior.

Constipation (yep)

All I can say is make sure you are eating plenty of fruit and grains.

Cystitis (again, yep)

Did you know you are more prone to cystitis during pregnancy? No? I didn’t either, until I knew. Also your immune system is apparently weaker, so it takes longer to shake off. Joy.

Water and cranberry juice,  and when that does work: filthy tasty medication from the pharmacy. Yuck.

The good news is basically all of those symptoms either improved or I’ve found a way to help them, and the main one of tiredness is much better (at the moment).

Do you have any tips for a first timer like me? I’m just at week 22 now.

Goodbye 20s

Today is the last day of my twenties. I have been asked how I feel about turning 30: overall really good.

My twenties have been great, I’ve been very lucky.

I was at Uni
I met I guy I liked
I graduated
I got an internship
I got a proper job
I moved into a house share in Brighton
I got promoted
I moved in with that guy I liked
We got engaged
We bought our first home
We got married

And to finish up we’re now expecting a baby.

As a start to my thirties, that’s a pretty awesome thing, and add in we’ll hopefully be moving before Christmas I reckon 30 will fly by.

Do you enjoy birthdays?

I’m pregnant

So the give away is in the title really.

I’ll start with the obvious, we are both very happy about it. We  told our close family and a few friends before the 12 week stage, around 6-8 weeks depending on when we saw them, as if anything were to have happened so far these are the people we would lean on for support, but thankfully all OK so far.

So that’s my news, for the moment. I’ll probably share a post about how I found the first trimester soon, in my oversharing way : )

Holidaying in the middle of nowhere

We have been trying to save for a trip to the USA in the Autumn, but Jack has a long summer holiday as a teacher and it would be a long old wait until October without a bit of a break. So we took a little short break and visit the North Penine area, to a gorgeous little cottage.

We stayed from Saturday to Wednesday as we had a wedding in Sussex the following weekend and schools holidays starting meant travelling back any later in the week would have been a nightmare.

The cottage was a great base to visit Hadrians Wall and we took a trip to look around a Roman fort, Vindolanda and well as visiting the sycamore made famous in a scene

We were also away over our second wedding anniversary, so decided to take a day to visit a spa and chill out in our ‘cotton’ robes. We visited Headlam Hall which was roughly an hour’s drive from our cottage, where we had a use of the pool, sauna and steam room, then some lunch and later in the afternoon some lovely treatments. And the sun was shining!

If you haven’t ventured up north for a UK based holiday, I can’t recommend it enough!

Where have you been this summer?

 

 

Don’t always believe what you read

My review on reviews. Specifically relating to review services such as Trustpilot, based on a recent experience.

Now then. You might not know this, I don’t know if I’ve mentioned it. We’re selling our flat and hoping to move. Except we haven’t had a single viewing or viewing request via Purplebricks.

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Our flat has been listed on their website, and Zoopla, and with a premium rightmove listing (for an extra fee) for over a month, and we haven’t had a single sniff. Which is not what I expected based on the rave reviews.

So I submitted my own review of our experience and no sooner had I submitted it to the site than I received an email from Trustpilot.

purplebricks.com has reported your review because they don’t believe you’ve had a genuine buying or service experience. Reported reviews are temporarily moved offline.

Well then. In order for my real review to actually be seen by people who might be considering the service I had to:

  1. Find your order confirmation, invoice, delivery report or proof of service with purplebricks.com. The documents should show: the name of the business, your name, the date, and a reference number. See more here.

  2. Send your documents by replying to this email. We accept forwarded emails from purplebricks.com, screenshots of user registration/profile or similar, and pdf attachments.

When we receive your documentation, we’ll review it and get back to you.

I did that and am waiting to hear back, but how many people submit reviews and then can’t or don’t get around to sending over their proof. If Purplebricks do this to every negative review, they are really skewing their numbers.

So, don’t believe everything you read, because there is every chance it’s just one side.

Where have I been?

No posts for a little while now. Life has been busy getting in the way, not necessarily in a good way, but there it is.

We’ve been super busy at work with an office move and add on to that that I will be going to two family funerals in the next two weeks and maybe there is a fair excuse in there.

I have posts in progress about my trip to Venice with my sister and the fact that we are hoping to move this year but they’ve been stuck in draft form for a little while now.

I’m hoping to get back to writing nonsense again soon.